"Respect your fellow human being, treat them fairly, disagree with them honestly, enjoy their friendship, explore your thoughts about one another candidly, work together for a common goal and help one another achieve it. No destructive lies. No ridiculous fears. No debilitating anger." - Bill Bradley
Please help DABS and The Bridging The Gap Project, to support a change in how we all talk about domestic abuse. Let's all come together for the good of all victims, regardless of their gender, religion, ability, sexuality, ethnicity or social and workplace position.
Support The Bridging The Gap Project by writing to your MP and asking for a change in the way that domestic abuse is discussed and reported. Please feel free to use this letter as a template.
As you can see, one of our twitter connections has been trying to get Refuge to answer a very simple question. This has been going on for almost a month and has been retweeted by many, including myself, on a daily basis.
As a result of Refuge failing to respond, DABS, Bridging The Gap Project, is asking Twitter and LinkedIn followers to join in trying to help.
Why is this important?
Refuge operate the National Domestic Abuse Helpline but are refusing to confirm if, or how, they respond to male victims of domestic abuse, who call them for help.
If you want to help, please follow the instructions in the picture.
RESULT: After 31 days of trying, I'm delighted to announce that 24hrs after launching the call to action, two tweets were received from Refuge answering the question. A huge thank you to everyone on twitter who helped with this.
If you see or hear any person, group or charity using this phrase,
“women comprise the "overwhelming" majority of victims of domestic abuse”.
Please be sure to email, tweet or post this letter on their thread.
Why is this important?
The issue is in the word, "overwhelmingly." This is not correct as men make up a significant one third of all domestic abuse victims.
Whilst DABS fully support female victims, we must challenge this deliberately misleading language, in order to create a level playing field for all sufferers and survivors of domestic abuse.
This rulling was upheld again in 2019 in a complaint made by the men and boys coalition.