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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Feb 4
- 5 min
POWER & CONTROL
THE DULUTH MODEL, WHY IT’S TIME TO REMOVE IT FROM DOMESTIC ABUSE TRAINING. How can it be acceptable, in a free and democratic society in the twenty first century, to continue to ignore domestic abuse victims and their children, simply because, they don’t fit the narrative of a sixty-year-old, twentieth century, radical feminist ideology? An ideology that displays an obvious willingness, to overlook female, (straight, gay, bisexual or trans) perpetrators and an ideology that i
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Jan 17
- 1 min
DOMESTIC ABUSE & BUSINESSES
January 2021 has seen the UK Government release new guidelines for businesses to help to support employees that are suffering from domestic abuse, particularly as rates of abuse have risen sharply due to COVID19 and employees having to work from home. You can read the government information here: Workplace support for victims of domestic abuse - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk) #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #unions #business #HR #HumanResources #COVID19
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Nov 17, 2020
- 1 min
AHHHH HA!
I'm currently moving house and came across this letter of thanks from last year. I had wondered where it went and I'm so pleased to be able to share it with you. Thank you so much to The Provost Marshal (Army) for his kind words. #army #armedforces #blog #vlog #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #businesscoach
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Nov 1, 2020
- 1 min
Fantastic Feedback
It was great to receive this positive feedback.
I absolutely love working with the Armed Forces. They are so inclusive in their outlook on domestic abuse.
#DomesticViolence #domesticabuse #Army #Navy #AirForce #Marine #military #RMP #training #education #businesstips
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Oct 18, 2020
- 1 min
When The Birds Stopped Singing
Safeword Theatre and Film's latest production, 'When The Birds Stopped Singing', is a powerful drama raising awareness of domestic abuse within a gay male relationship. Safeword engaged talented professional actors and the dress rehearsal was filmed by an ex-BBC Film maker. If you feel the content would be of value for training or awareness purposes. please let us know! The production tells the story of Simon, a young gay man, who was smothered by his mother and rejected by
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Oct 14, 2020
- 1 min
FACT OR FICTION?
Three very common and incorrect statements that we see and hear, time and time again. This interesting document by Mankind Initiative lays out the statistics. https://www.mankind.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Male-Victims-of-Domestic-Abuse-Briefing-on-Gender-and-Sexuality-of-Perpetrators-September-2019.pdf #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #abuse #control #propoganda #police #nhs #covid19 #coercivecontrol #gaslighting
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Sep 26, 2020
- 1 min
OUR NEW LOGO
Pleased to finally launch our new logo that reflects our passion for supporting all victims of domestic abuse in the workplace. We base our work and campaigns around #equality #inclusion & #empathy and wanted the logo to reflect hope. The tree represents regeneration, growth and flourishing post-abuse. We hope that you like it? #inclusion #equality #empathy #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #abuse #police #politics #mentalhealth #suicide
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Jul 19, 2020
- 1 min
Workplace domestic abuse
Today I submitted my evidence to the Department for Business, Energy & Industrial Strategy on the subject of domestic abuse in the workplace. #domesticabusebill #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #relationships #coercivecontrol #blogger #vlogger #blog #politics #police #Youarenotalone #DABill #jessphillips #borisjohnson #equality #inclusion
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Jun 27, 2020
- 1 min
A response from The House Of Commons
The second response from my local MP on the issue of domestic abuse. Please do feel free to leave your comments below. #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #abuse #government #law #police #politics #blogger #vlogger #relationships #mentoo
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Jun 18, 2020
- 3 min
THE SOCIETAL ABUSE OF MEN
Societal abuse is a form of active abuse, that refers to the disadvantages an individual or group experiences, as a result of unjust social structures. In this case, the group that I’m referring to, is abused men. Particularly, gay, straight, bisexual and trans, male victims of domestic abuse and their children. All categories of societal abuse involve the manipulative control of time, energy, focus and connection between people, groups and organisations, in the service of on
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Jun 13, 2020
- 1 min
BBC COMPLAINT
We made a complaint directly to the new Director General of the BBC, Mr Tim Davie about the way that the BBC reports on domestic abuse as a gendered crime. https://www.bbc.co.uk/mediacentre/latestnews/2020/tim-davie-director-general #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #coercivecontrol #relationships #blog #blogger #vlog #police #politics #mentoo
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Jun 13, 2020
- 1 min
The Domestic Abuse Bill Scrutiny Committee
If you want your voice to be heard, it's absolutely essential that you write to the committee today. #domesticabusebill #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #relationships #coercivecontrol #blogger #vlogger #blog #politics #police
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Jun 13, 2020
- 1 min
No Prime Minister!
Support The Bridging The Gap Project by writing to The Prime Minister and letting him know how damaging his video was, after The Hidden Harms Summit. Please feel free to use this letter as a template. #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #blog #blogger #vlogger #coercivecontrol #youarenotalone #politics #relationships #PrimeMinister #calltoaction
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Jun 12, 2020
- 1 min
Official - Women are NOT the "overwhelming" majority of domestic abuse victims.
If you see or hear any person, group or charity using this phrase,
“women comprise the "overwhelming" majority of victims of domestic abuse”.
Please be sure to email, tweet or post the attached letter on their thread.
Why is this important? The U.K Statistics Authority ruled in 2009 and again in 2019, that women were not the "overwhelming" majority of victims and that men made up a "significant" number of domestic abuse victims. Whilst DABS fully support female victims,
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- Jun 7, 2020
- 1 min
Women's charity leaders, minimising women's abuse against men.
It is a disgrace for leaders of the two biggest domestic abuse charities in the UK, to dismiss and minimise female perpetrated domestic abuse. #DomesticAbuse #DomesticViolence #YouAreNotAlone #Vlog #Blog #Government #Politics #Covid19 #Menoo #MeToo #Business #Equality #GammaBias #Police #NHS #CoerciveControl #Misandry #WomensAid #RespectUK #Refuge #MankindInitiative #Feminism #ToxicMasculinity #DABS #DomesticAbuseBusinessSupport #Education #Crime #Gaslighting #PTSD #MentalHe
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- May 28, 2020
- 1 min
When do people become perpetrators?
This week, I produced this video. It was in response to an almost identical video that a serving police officer put out but with one big difference, his was gendered and called, "When did HE become a perpetrator?" It is completely unacceptable for a serving police officer to help to reinforce the negative gender stereotype that men are always the perpetrator and women always the victim. Perpetrators can of course, be male or female. I hope you like the video. Please feel free
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Robert S Wells @ DABS
- May 13, 2020
- 1 min
CLARE'S LAW
Hello my fabulous social media friends. Today I want to introduce you to a documentary produced by Chloe Rose who is a student journalist at the centre for journalism, an intern at KMTV Kent and a reporter at the voice of Kent. The documentary is called - Unmasking Abusers: Protecting the legacy of Clare Wood and Investigates how well Clare’s Law works, in offering better protection to victims of domestic abuse. I want to say a huge thank you to Chloe for the opportunity t
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