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My Response - “Supporting male victims of crimes considered violence against women and girls."

Apr 1
6 min

My Response - “Supporting male victims of crimes considered violence against women and girls."

“Supporting male victims of crimes considered violence against women and girls.” Whoever came up with this title, has absolutely no understanding of what it is to be a victim of domestic abuse. It is utterly ridiculous and downright irresponsible and sets the tone for a document that fails to deliver on every level. As a survivor of female perpetrated domestic abuse, I find this title dangerously counter productive. Male victims face extra barriers to reporting abuse. These i

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Oct 14, 2020
1 min

Parental Alienation

An incredibly important report on parental alienation. Please visit here: https://parentalalienationuk.info/ #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #parentalalienation #abuse #gaslighting #coercivecontrol

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Oct 14, 2020
1 min

FACT OR FICTION?

Three very common and incorrect statements that we see and hear, time and time again. This interesting document by Mankind Initiative lays out the statistics. https://www.mankind.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Male-Victims-of-Domestic-Abuse-Briefing-on-Gender-and-Sexuality-of-Perpetrators-September-2019.pdf #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #abuse #control #propoganda #police #nhs #covid19 #coercivecontrol #gaslighting

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jul 19, 2020
1 min

Workplace domestic abuse

Today I submitted my evidence to the Department for Business, Energy & Industrial Strategy on the subject of domestic abuse in the workplace. #domesticabusebill #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #relationships #coercivecontrol #blogger #vlogger #blog #politics #police #Youarenotalone #DABill #jessphillips #borisjohnson #equality #inclusion

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jun 18, 2020
3 min

THE SOCIETAL ABUSE OF MEN

Societal abuse is a form of active abuse, that refers to the disadvantages an individual or group experiences, as a result of unjust social structures. In this case, the group that I’m referring to, is abused men. Particularly, gay, straight, bisexual and trans, male victims of domestic abuse and their children. All categories of societal abuse involve the manipulative control of time, energy, focus and connection between people, groups and organisations, in the service of on

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jun 13, 2020
1 min

BBC COMPLAINT

We made a complaint directly to the new Director General of the BBC, Mr Tim Davie about the way that the BBC reports on domestic abuse as a gendered crime. https://www.bbc.co.uk/mediacentre/latestnews/2020/tim-davie-director-general #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #coercivecontrol #relationships #blog #blogger #vlog #police #politics #mentoo

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The Domestic Abuse Bill Scrutiny Committee

Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jun 13, 2020
1 min

The Domestic Abuse Bill Scrutiny Committee

If you want your voice to be heard, it's absolutely essential that you write to the committee today. #domesticabusebill #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #relationships #coercivecontrol #blogger #vlogger #blog #politics #police

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jun 13, 2020
1 min

Give your evidence now!

Write to the committee today and get your voice heard. #domesticabusebill #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #relationships #coercivecontrol #politics #blogger #vlogger #blog

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jun 13, 2020
1 min

No Prime Minister!

Support The Bridging The Gap Project by writing to The Prime Minister and letting him know how damaging his video was, after The Hidden Harms Summit. Please feel free to use this letter as a template. #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #blog #blogger #vlogger #coercivecontrol #youarenotalone #politics #relationships #PrimeMinister #calltoaction

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Official - Women are NOT the "overwhelming" majority of domestic abuse victims.

Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jun 12, 2020
1 min

Official - Women are NOT the "overwhelming" majority of domestic abuse victims.

If you see or hear any person, group or charity using this phrase, “women comprise the "overwhelming" majority of victims of domestic abuse”. Please be sure to email, tweet or post the attached letter on their thread. Why is this important? The U.K Statistics Authority ruled in 2009 and again in 2019, that women were not the "overwhelming" majority of victims and that men made up a "significant" number of domestic abuse victims. Whilst DABS fully support female victims,

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Women's charity leaders, minimising women's abuse against men.

Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jun 7, 2020
1 min

Women's charity leaders, minimising women's abuse against men.

It is a disgrace for leaders of the two biggest domestic abuse charities in the UK, to dismiss and minimise female perpetrated domestic abuse. #DomesticAbuse #DomesticViolence #YouAreNotAlone #Vlog #Blog #Government #Politics #Covid19 #Menoo #MeToo #Business #Equality #GammaBias #Police #NHS #CoerciveControl #Misandry #WomensAid #RespectUK #Refuge #MankindInitiative #Feminism #ToxicMasculinity #DABS #DomesticAbuseBusinessSupport #Education #Crime #Gaslighting #PTSD #MentalHe

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

May 28, 2020
1 min

When do people become perpetrators?

This week, I produced this video. It was in response to an almost identical video that a serving police officer put out but with one big difference, his was gendered and called, "When did HE become a perpetrator?" It is completely unacceptable for a serving police officer to help to reinforce the negative gender stereotype that men are always the perpetrator and women always the victim. Perpetrators can of course, be male or female. I hope you like the video. Please feel free

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Dubai leader's domestic abuse undermines Emirate's hollow gender reforms.

Robert S Wells @ DABS

Mar 15, 2020
1 min

Dubai leader's domestic abuse undermines Emirate's hollow gender reforms.

I was interested to see this article about one of my former employers. Domestic abuse victims in the UAE and elsewhere in the Gulf, face unique challenges. Whilst this report focuses on women, we should always remember men and the LGBTQ community. https://www.alaraby.co.uk/english/comment/2020/3/13/dubai-leaders-domestic-abuse-undermines-emirates-hollow-gender-reforms #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #relationships #workplacetraining #survivors #wellbeingatwork #coercivecontr

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DABS is a business, not a charity. Why is that?

Robert S Wells @ DABS

Feb 2, 2020
1 min

DABS is a business, not a charity. Why is that?

Ive had a number of conversations over the last 12 months about people profiting from victims of domestic abuse and wanted to set the record straight on why I set up a business and not a charity to support victims. See the video here: https://youtu.be/TrVyVqS-hv8 #business #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #workplacetraining #relationships #coercivecontrol #mentalhealth #wellbeing #hrtraining

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jan 29, 2020
1 min

DOMESTIC ABUSE IN THE WORKPLACE

VIDEO N0 3 - What is domestic abuse? Over the coming weeks, I’ll be putting out a series of videos, discussing domestic abuse in the workplace and how we can help you, to protect your business and your employees. See video her: https://youtu.be/FkaUqjU2nbw #business #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #workplacetraining #relationships #coercivecontrol #mentalhealth #wellbeing #hrtraining

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jan 29, 2020
1 min

DOMESTIC ABUSE IN THE WORKPLACE

VIDEO N0 2 - Over the coming weeks, I’ll be putting out a series of videos, discussing domestic abuse in the workplace and how we can help you, to protect your business and your employees. see video here: https://youtu.be/kXETezS9JsY #business #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #workplacetraining #relationships #coercivecontrol #mentalhealth #wellbeing #hrtraining

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When you see the "call to action," this highlights the blog posts that we need YOU to get involved with.

"Respect your fellow human being, treat them fairly, disagree with them honestly, enjoy their friendship, explore your thoughts about one another candidly, work together for a common goal and help one another achieve it. No destructive lies. No ridiculous fears. No debilitating anger." - Bill Bradley

Please help DABS and The Bridging The Gap Project, to support a change in how we all talk about domestic abuse. Let's all come together for the good of all victims, regardless of their gender, religion, ability, sexuality, ethnicity or social and workplace position.