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Jun 18, 2020
3 min

THE SOCIETAL ABUSE OF MEN

Societal abuse is a form of active abuse, that refers to the disadvantages an individual or group experiences, as a result of unjust social structures. In this case, the group that I’m referring to, is abused men. Particularly, gay, straight, bisexual and trans, male victims of domestic abuse and their children. All categories of societal abuse involve the manipulative control of time, energy, focus and connection between people, groups and organisations, in the service of on

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jun 13, 2020
1 min

BBC COMPLAINT

We made a complaint directly to the new Director General of the BBC, Mr Tim Davie about the way that the BBC reports on domestic abuse as a gendered crime. https://www.bbc.co.uk/mediacentre/latestnews/2020/tim-davie-director-general #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #coercivecontrol #relationships #blog #blogger #vlog #police #politics #mentoo

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

May 28, 2020
1 min

When do people become perpetrators?

This week, I produced this video. It was in response to an almost identical video that a serving police officer put out but with one big difference, his was gendered and called, "When did HE become a perpetrator?" It is completely unacceptable for a serving police officer to help to reinforce the negative gender stereotype that men are always the perpetrator and women always the victim. Perpetrators can of course, be male or female. I hope you like the video. Please feel free

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Mar 26, 2020
1 min

Jess Phillips does not care for minority victims.

Some people never miss a chance to reinforce the false stereotype that men are always the perp and women always the victim. We should be looking out for ALL victims of domestic abuse (now more than ever), including the minority victims, men, the LGBTQ community and elder abuse victims. Practicing gamma bias at a time like this is reprehensible. See Jess Phillips comments here: https://www.msn.com/en-gb/news/world/jess-phillips-hotels-need-to-house-domestic-violence-victims-du

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jan 29, 2020
1 min

DOMESTIC ABUSE IN THE WORKPLACE

The first of what I hope will be many video, where I discuss the affects that domestic abuse had on me. And tips and advice on dealing with domestic abuse in the workplace. see vide here: https://youtu.be/p4TXaldH2Zg #mentalhealth #workplacetraining #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #relationships #wellbeing #mentoo #genderequality #vlogger #vlogging

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jan 21, 2020
1 min

Ministry Of Defence

I was delighted to receive this today. Back in November 2019, I was invited to speak at the MOD on the subject of domestic abuse against men and domestic abuse in the workplace. The event was to launch the "Defence wide Domestic Abuse Awareness Campaign." It was attended by several support organisations, military and non-military, as well as survivors. Alongside representatives from the RAF and Navy Families’ Federations and the Military Welfare Colonels, were Mr Chris Green

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Jan 7, 2020
2 min

Part 2 - Misandry at the Commission.

A huge thank you to those of you that have read, responded and commented on my last post about misandry at The Equality And Human Rights Commission. Further to my last post, I thought that you may be interested in emails between myself and a Commission representative In July of 2019. I wrote to the Commission via their online contact form. I was curious about the wording, that they had included with statistics that they were quoting, so I requested the source. You can see scr

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Dec 15, 2019
1 min

MOD GUEST SPEAKER

I was honoured to be the guest speaker at the MOD main building, for their, "Domestic Abuse Awareness Campaign Launch." Where I gave a talk on domestic abuse against men. This event was attended by the U.K.s largest domestic abuse organisations, as well as MOD staff, so I was incredibly flattered to be selected as the guest speaker. Groups attending included: Women's Aid. Mankind Initiative. Survivors U.K. Women's Trust. Galop. Men's Advice Line. Aurora New Dawn. The Families

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Robert S Wells @ DABS

Oct 7, 2019
5 min

Throwing domestic violence victims to the wolves.

An article by Ally Fogg. The Guardian’s front page story yesterday (2014) made depressing reading on every score. The impacts of the coalition government’s austerity package have tended to fall disproportionately and viciously upon the most vulnerable, those least able to fend for themselves and kick up a fuss. Few acts look more callous and heartless than turning one’s back on victims of domestic abuse in order to square the annual balance sheet. Within the sorry litany of b

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